Wedding Expert Tips: How to Choose Your Wedding Party

Happy National Friendship Day!

In honor of this special day (always falls on the first Sunday of August), we thought it was the perfect time to discuss how to pick your wedding party! Many of our clients stress over which friends and/or relatives to ask to be in their wedding party (mostly the bridesmaids). Choosing the bridal party is no laughing matter, but it should also come naturally to you. Check out our tips to help you decide on who to pick and please try not to lose sleep over it!

How to choose your wedding party

1. How Many?

One of the first things to consider when selecting your bridal party is how many guests you're planning to invite. While bridal parties can range anywhere from a single maid/matron of honor to more than a dozen attendants, most wedding experts agree that a good rule of thumb is to have one groomsman and one corresponding bridesmaid for every 50 guests.  Also, a large wedding party traditionally signifies a formal wedding. So if you're planning a small, intimate gathering, ten bridesmaids might be a bit too much. It is also ok to have an uneven bridal party, more groomsmen than bridesmaids or vice versa, don't feel as though you have to throw someone into the mix just to make it even.

2. The More The Merrier?

Speaking of size, remember that the more bridesmaids you have, the greater the potential for complications. In other words, you'll need to get more people to agree on a dress or decide on a bridal shower date and bachelorette party. Keep in mind, if you're on a limited budget, you'll be paying for all those bridesmaids bouquets and gifts.

3. Family First

If you're close to your sister or future sister-in-law, the thought of not including them in your wedding party probably never even occurred to you. But if you are not and  the thought of asking your sister (or sister-in-law) to be a bridesmaid gives you anxiety, you probably will lose a few nights of sleep. Make it easy on yourself, it's usually worth it to include family members just to avoid any unnecessary conflict. Think of it as having more bargaining power when you're battling with your mom over the guest list.

4. No Backsies

You don't need to ask someone to be in your wedding just because she asked you to be in her wedding. Don't ask the college roommate you haven't spoken to in five years just to return the favor. If you haven't spoken to them in the last year, you do not need to feel obligated.

5. Location is Key

What do you expect from your bridesmaids? Will simple moral support suffice, or do you expect them to be your personal assistant, addressing wedding invitations and and helping you with all your DIH's? If it's the latter, think twice about asking friends who live far away or who have extremely hectic schedules. You don't want to find yourself getting frustrated with a friend you knew wouldn't be able to give you all the help you wanted. You may end up with someone who says yes, then later decides it's too much and they will back out and you will have an uneven wedding party whether you like it or not!

6. Don't Assume

Don't write off some friends simply because you think they don't have enough money to afford that Monique Lhuillier bridesmaid dress you have your eye on. If you want to ask a friend whom you know is having financial difficulties, you can always say something like, "I'd love for you to be a bridesmaid, but I understand the tough time you're going through now. If you can't do it, I'd love to find something else for you to do in the wedding." (Or, you can offer to pay her way if you can't stand the idea of her not being in the wedding.)

7. Guys Matter

A bridesmaid doesn't have to be a woman. If your best friend is a guy, there's no reason why he can't be in your wedding. Today, many brides and grooms are including members of the opposite sex as attendants. In these cases, a man on the bride's side is simply called an attendant or bridesman, while a woman on the groom's side can be called an attendant or a groomswoman.

8. Other Honors

Keep in mind that there are plenty of other roles good friends can play in your wedding if they don't make the cut -- do a reading, hand out programs, or perform a song.

9. Spread the News

Once you make up your mind about your bridesmaids, you definitely want to get the word out and up on your wedding website. The only thing worse than a coworker who thinks she's invited to your wedding is a friend who assumes she's going to be a bridesmaid. If you're afraid of hurting someone's feelings, remember that, as cliched as it sounds, any true friend will understand whatever decision you ultimately make. And finally, the sooner you make your decision, the sooner you get to check off one more box on your endless wedding checklist. Please don't wait, those dresses take some time to order, unless your lucky enough to find them off the rack!

We hope these tips will help you in your decision process, please feel free to email us with any other questions to

Photo Credit: Anthony Ziccardi Studios, Alyssa + Billy's May 2013 Wedding

Honeymoon Tips from a Travel Planning Expert

Today's Travel Tip Tuesday is a very important one! Unfortunately, there is more to getting ready for a honeymoon than thinking about all the cute new outfits you are going to pack (although very important) and getting excited about the destination by checking out photos and websites.

honeymoon tips

Travel documents
Depending on where you are honeymooning, different forms of documentation are required for entry. Visa’s are required in some countries and a passport in others.

The Jet Set Gal can provide you with the following services:

~ Process an unlimited number of US Passports in 24 hours

~ Process Brazil and China visas in 24 HOURS - for any state in the USA!! (form, photo, passport)

~ Russian Visas (including invitations/hotel vouchers)

~ Process Russian Passports for Russian citizens WITHOUT a personal appearance

Travel Insurance
The Jet Set Gal highly recommends purchasing travel insurance. There are many types of insurance policies available. The Jet Set Gal helps her clients navigate the best travel insurance options for each type of honeymoon.

Most vaccines take time to become effective in your body. The Jet Set Gal recommends clients to schedule an appointment with their doctor at least 4 to 6 weeks prior to travel. For more information and a complete list of destinations that require travel vaccinations, follow this link:

For more honeymoon tips, The Jet Set Gal can be contacted at

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Proud Member of Virtuoso, Specialists in the Art of Travel

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Exiting Your Wedding: The Getaway Car

We've all seen it before : a car, limousine, classic roadster, sometimes an ordinary American four-door, cruising down the highway with the words "Just Married" spread across the back window. Couples are getting creative these days with their getaway cars and it makes for such a great photo op!

Traditionally the decorating of the getaway car is handled by the groomsmen (but bridesmaids, flowergirls, and ringbearers are usually welcome to help if they would like to), decorating the getaway car can be a chance to get creative and call upon those artistic talents not often used in everyday living. While scribbling "Just Married" on a window is a start, to really do your newlywed friends proud, bring some imagination and fun along and go all out.


Use soap or shaving cream to write "Just Married" along the back, either on a window or on the paint. But please BE CAREFUL: shaving cream might damage the paint, leaving a possibly hefty fine to whomever returns the car. It might be wiser to play it safe and use the window. Soap should be safe no matter where it's used, but depending on the paint job, it might be harder to see on the paint (especially if it's a white limo!).

Another traditional way of dressing up the getaway car is to tie old shoes to the back bumper. In times past, leather was believed to ward off evil spirits, and so old leather shoes were thought to keep the newlyweds safe.  But be aware that some limousine and car rental companies discourage tying anything to the car; always check with the transportation company in advance.


We love seeing cars with colorful streamers on them, definitely a great way to splash on some color and definitely one of our favorites! Try to use the color scheme of the wedding.


Another way to add color is to take some deep breaths and blow up some balloons or have them delivered to the venue by a party company. Tie the balloons to the outside, or fill up the inside of the car to bursting.  Nothing adds festivity to an occasion quite like rubber balloons, so don't hold back -- the more the merrier!


While you are decorating the getaway car, put a couple bottles of champagne in an ice-filled bucket and stick it on the back seat. It's a classy gesture, one they're sure to appreciate. . Why not also leave a basket of treats in the car. The couple often misses out on much of the wedding feast, and chances are, they'll be hungry as they drive off.


Please be safe with your decor on the car -- you don't want to do anything that might get the bride and groom a ticket (obstruction of view), or god forbid into an accident. Be wary of covering the windows up too heavily -- either their driver or they will still need to be able to drive. Take a seat behind the wheel during the decorating and see if you'd still be able to drive.

Here are a few of our recent getaway cars, which is your favorite and what will you be taking off on for your special day?

{Tara + Jonathan} Photography: Studio Uno

{Amanda + Kevin} Photography: Shot by Jake

{Bess + Jon} Photography: JF Photography

{Liza + Jon} Jan Press Photo Media


NYC Wedding Planner

Peony Events Brooklyn Wedding Featured on Style Me Pretty

We are so honored to have another wedding published on the Style Me Pretty - Little Black Book blog!

Photography: Shot by Jake

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Leslie and I (Stacey) had a great time with Amanda and Kevin, along with their family and friends, it was the perfect day for such a wonderful couple! It was such a fun wedding to coordinate and put together the month before their wedding.

Check out the full feature over at Style Me Pretty!

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Peony Events Featured on Style Me Pretty

WOW! We are so honored and truly grateful to be featured yesterday on a blog we absolutely adore - Style Me Pretty's Little Black Book (LBB)Blog! It means so much to us to be preferred NJ Wedding Planners through Style Me Pretty and we have so much love + respect for all of their LBB members!

Read a tidbit from Mallory's post here:

One of my favorite things to do is to share the weddings of our beloved LBBers. They’re like family to us and we love them all to pieces, so when one of them ties the knot and sends it our way, it’s just as exciting as opening up a beautiful Smock invite, covered in Belles Lettres Calligraphy. In this wedding, captured phenomenally by Images by Berit, Stacey of Peony Events married her love, and we’ve all gone a bit misty eyed over the photos!

Monique Lhuillier Gown from The Wedding Shoppe

NJ Wedding Planners

Smock Invitations + Cambridge Street Papers

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Jenny Yoo Bridesmaid Crinkled Chiffon Gowns in slate

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Nicholas + his handsome guys

Stacey + her lovely ladies

The Crew! Such an amazing Bridal Party..

I do's

Place Cards by Belles Lettres Calligraphy

 Our special guests: Mayor Tim Dougherty and First Lady Mary Dougherty @ Crystal Springs Resort & Spa

The Blaire Reinhard Band rocked the house all night!

Thank you, Berit, from Images by Berit for capturing the night so perfectly (& allowing us to showcase a few of our favorite shots on our website)! A special thanks to all of our amazing vendors (especially our hair & make up crew: Gina Imperati @ Ciao Bella + Kathy Genchi @ Kathy Genchi Make up Pro) who made our day so very special! Our clients always ask to see pictures of my (Stacey) wedding, so we've added them to our website and portfolio!

To view the entire blog and all our vendors - please visit: Style Me Pretty's LBB Blog!

Thanks again, Mallory, for featuring us yesterday! xo